Farewell Emma’s Dilemmas
The idea for this column began as a mere joke--the name stemmining from an episode of Lego Friends, the tone akin to that of Rachel Renée Russell’s Dork Diaries book series. When I proposed the idea to Mr. Scott, expecting a dismissal, he was surprisingly all for it, immediately handing over the reins. I spent hours brainstorming with my beloved co-editors about what I wanted this column to be. Perhaps somewhere where I could discuss certain fashion trends, calling out the unwashed masses (as Mr. Scott says) that roam the halls, or a place where I could divulge my fears of the future? Ultimately, I decided upon this column being a place where I could discuss the topics society too-often dismisses, topics that I wish I had seen covered in times of struggle.
From body image issues to sexual assault awareness, I’ve done my best to cover the close-to-home topics that I felt would have the biggest impact on those that take the time to read this column. Having written such important articles, deciding what I want this last one to cover has been more difficult than any other, so I’d like to leave off with some things that I wish I could go back and tell my younger self.
First and foremost, coming into these four years with an open mind is the best thing a person can do for themselves. For some of us, life likes to throw the wildest of curveballs that can derail a predetermined plan you may have for your high-school career, so go into it expecting the unexpected. There are a number of clubs and programs I never would have thought I’d get involved in, but staying open to trying new things is what led me to the experiences I’m so glad to have had.
Secondly, I suggest that you disregard the idea that authority figures at this school should be your sole source of knowledge. Surprisingly enough, this lesson was taught to me by my former English teacher (shoutout to Mr. Brydon), who with each lesson taught us to go beyond this country’s repressive education system. Do your own research, think outside the box, and advocate for a better future.
Third, don’t listen to those who tell you to take the easy road. While there’s no shame in taking the classes that you can breeze through, if a “difficult” class or program is important to you, stick with it despite what others say. As someone who missed her fair share of classes due to circumstances beyond control, ignoring administrators advice to drop a time-consuming program and an AP class I truly enjoyed was the best decision I could have made for myself.
Finally, surround yourself with people who lift your spirit. Don’t waste these years with people who prevent you from maturing--part of high school is growing apart from people, and that’s okay. Don’t settle for relationships that don’t benefit you, but even so, remember that there’s something to be learned from each experience. As my favorite quote from The Perks of Being a Wallflower says, “We accept the love we think we deserve,” and you deserve love; never forget that.
by Emma Toney
Published May 19th, 2025
Oshkosh West Index Volume 121 Issue VIII